Known for her candid opinions on Loose Women, she now serves as Britain’s most straightforward advice columnist, offering guidance on sex, relationships, and life challenges.
Dear Coleen
A close friend of mine, whom I’ve cherished for almost a decade, has recently been displaying excessive flirtatious behavior towards my husband, particularly during social gatherings with friends and alcohol involved. Although my husband merely engages in a light-hearted manner, I am certain there are no romantic intentions on his part.
Despite her own relationship being casual, her behavior has shifted from amusing to bothersome, especially during couple-oriented outings. A friend even suggested that her actions were excessive and advised me to be vigilant.
The tipping point was at a recent barbecue hosted by her, where she sat on my husband’s lap for an extended period, conversing as if they were a couple. Even my husband appeared uncomfortable with the situation.
Feeling embarrassed and disrespected, I am unsure how to address this issue without damaging our friendship. While I wish to avoid a fallout, her behavior cannot continue unchecked.
Coleen advises
Acknowledging the discomfort this situation creates, it might be more embarrassing for her in a public setting. Communicate your feelings with your husband, asking him to refrain from participating in her flirtatious behavior. If it becomes uncomfortable for him as well, he can politely excuse himself or redirect the conversation. Consider minimizing social interactions involving partners and opt for one-on-one meetings with her.
If her behavior persists, a direct conversation may be necessary to maintain the friendship. While difficult, addressing the issue openly could lead to a resolution. Her response may vary from embarrassment and apology to a distancing of the friendship. Crossing boundaries with a friend’s spouse is unacceptable, potentially signaling a shift in the dynamics of the relationship.
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