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Dear Coleen
I am a woman in my early forties who has been single since my divorce seven years ago. Raising my 10-year-old daughter alone has been my focus, but lately, I have been contemplating re-entering the dating scene.
My ex-husband is not actively involved in our lives, and I feel a sense of guilt whenever I think about pursuing a new relationship as my daughter depends on me entirely.
A recent encounter with an old acquaintance at a party has prompted me to consider dating again. This person and I have always had a good rapport, but circumstances never aligned for us to explore a relationship in the past. Now, he has expressed interest in going out together.
Although I am eager to see where this could lead, I am anxious about how my daughter will react to me dating.
Coleen advises
Initially, it is best to keep your dating life private with your daughter. Simply inform her that you are spending time with a friend without making it a significant issue. Take things slowly in this new relationship, and avoid introducing him to your daughter too soon.
Ensure that your daughter remains a priority, and involve her gradually in your new relationship by introducing him as a friend and engaging in activities together. Allow her to form a bond with him naturally by including him in your outings. This will help her adjust to the idea of you dating again.
It is normal to seek companionship after being single for an extended period, but remember that your daughter has been your main focus. Expect some jealousy from her, but continue to spend quality time with just her to maintain your bond.
Dating while being a parent can be challenging, but children adapt if they feel loved and valued. Reassure your daughter of her importance in your life, and be patient as she adjusts to changes. Building your own life and relationships is crucial for your well-being and hers, as she will eventually grow up and create her own path.
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